I:0:T How can I be so certain that you can raise your children free of temper tantrums when parenting experts advise for the most part that it's not possible? The first five children I had all threw tantrums when they were babies, but my last eight did not. When my fifth child was fourteen months, I learned what I needed to alter in my parenting style, and within a week or so he was forever free of tantrums.
As I had my last eight children, I applied the same parenting techniques from as soon as they were born, and not one of them ever threw tantrums. I'm not, however, one of very few parents who've raised a number of temper-tantrum-free children. I have met hundreds of them, personally, and I'll bet there have been many millions worldwide.
If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.
Parents of tantrum-free children probably don't usually know exactly what it is they've done differently from what parents of tantrum-throwers have. My guess is this is because they haven't had the kinds of failures I've had to compare with their successes. I'm guessing, in other words, that most parents who raise tantrum-free kids are successful at doing it with all of their kids from the very beginning of their parenting. Somehow they're able to get on the right track at the start of their parenting and don't get into following the standard, but faulty, tantrum advice. They don't have the before and after examples like I did so they can tell us what they were doing when they were failing and what they changed in order to succeed.
Even though these parents can't articulate exactly what they did to raise tantrum-free kids, they still add support to my theory. They demonstrate that raising tantrum-free children is possible for people who somehow manage to discover the right techniques. Any of you who've been able to raise tantrum-free children are invited to list these experiences on my webpage, Tantrum Free Club, so you can help me convince others that it's possible. And any of you who haven't raised tantrum-free kids are welcome to vent and share your most embarrassing or worst ever temper tantrums stories on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums page.
As I had my last eight children, I applied the same parenting techniques from as soon as they were born, and not one of them ever threw tantrums. I'm not, however, one of very few parents who've raised a number of temper-tantrum-free children. I have met hundreds of them, personally, and I'll bet there have been many millions worldwide.
If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.
Parents of tantrum-free children probably don't usually know exactly what it is they've done differently from what parents of tantrum-throwers have. My guess is this is because they haven't had the kinds of failures I've had to compare with their successes. I'm guessing, in other words, that most parents who raise tantrum-free kids are successful at doing it with all of their kids from the very beginning of their parenting. Somehow they're able to get on the right track at the start of their parenting and don't get into following the standard, but faulty, tantrum advice. They don't have the before and after examples like I did so they can tell us what they were doing when they were failing and what they changed in order to succeed.
Even though these parents can't articulate exactly what they did to raise tantrum-free kids, they still add support to my theory. They demonstrate that raising tantrum-free children is possible for people who somehow manage to discover the right techniques. Any of you who've been able to raise tantrum-free children are invited to list these experiences on my webpage, Tantrum Free Club, so you can help me convince others that it's possible. And any of you who haven't raised tantrum-free kids are welcome to vent and share your most embarrassing or worst ever temper tantrums stories on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums page.
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