I:0:T During all of the forty-some years I have been parenting, the most consistent temper tantrum advice from experts has been for parents to ignore their child's tantrums. The theory behind such a technique of ignoring temper tantrums, according to my understanding, is that ignoring them prevents their validation. The parent who ignores tantrums avoids rewarding their child for them and avoids reinforcing their negative behavior with any attention.
According to such a don't-reinforce-negative-behavior theory, in this scenario the underlying beliefs are that the child is throwing the temper tantrum for the purpose of garnering undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parents avoid reinforcing such negative behavior, it should actually go away, stop, and cease to happen. In spite of this theory behind ignoring-tantrums techniques, throughout history of parenting advice, most parenting advice givers who've recommended using the techniques have not claimed that it stops tantrums in progress or prevents them.
Just a few short decades ago, experts still weren't putting the word prevention in the same sentence along with the word tantrum. Their advice was given only to teach parents the best ways to deal with and manage the tantrums, much the same as is the case today. However, current parenting experts now inform parents on how to prevent a portion of the temper tantrums by handling the child's tantrum triggers, such as tiredness, frustration, and hunger. Or in other words, these parenting advisors teach parents to prevent the tiredness, frustration, and hunger in their children. They don't actually teach parents how to prevent tantrums in their children's normal living, which occasionally includes hunger, frustration, and tiredness.
My temper tantrum prevention and elimination method is vastly different from that of others. I instruct parents in how to respond to their offspring in a way that makes it absolutely unnecessary to be vigilant for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually only anger triggers). This happens because the usual infant and childhood frustrations don't any longer trigger temper tantrums. Despite this basic theory behind the ignoring-of-tantrums technique, through the recent history of parenting advice, most experts who recommend using the technique don't claim that it will prevent or stop tantrums in progress.
I teach parents the way to totally, 100% eliminate tantrums from their kids' behavioral repertoires so that there are no longer any kind of temper tantrums in progress to have to manage, deal with, handle, or stop. I also help parents know how to consistently respond to a newborn baby in a way that the child never gets into a pattern of throwing tantrums or of escalating with anger. I give parents these techniques with clarity and with as many examples as possible, hoping they will learn them quickly and easily.
According to such a don't-reinforce-negative-behavior theory, in this scenario the underlying beliefs are that the child is throwing the temper tantrum for the purpose of garnering undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parents avoid reinforcing such negative behavior, it should actually go away, stop, and cease to happen. In spite of this theory behind ignoring-tantrums techniques, throughout history of parenting advice, most parenting advice givers who've recommended using the techniques have not claimed that it stops tantrums in progress or prevents them.
Just a few short decades ago, experts still weren't putting the word prevention in the same sentence along with the word tantrum. Their advice was given only to teach parents the best ways to deal with and manage the tantrums, much the same as is the case today. However, current parenting experts now inform parents on how to prevent a portion of the temper tantrums by handling the child's tantrum triggers, such as tiredness, frustration, and hunger. Or in other words, these parenting advisors teach parents to prevent the tiredness, frustration, and hunger in their children. They don't actually teach parents how to prevent tantrums in their children's normal living, which occasionally includes hunger, frustration, and tiredness.
My temper tantrum prevention and elimination method is vastly different from that of others. I instruct parents in how to respond to their offspring in a way that makes it absolutely unnecessary to be vigilant for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually only anger triggers). This happens because the usual infant and childhood frustrations don't any longer trigger temper tantrums. Despite this basic theory behind the ignoring-of-tantrums technique, through the recent history of parenting advice, most experts who recommend using the technique don't claim that it will prevent or stop tantrums in progress.
I teach parents the way to totally, 100% eliminate tantrums from their kids' behavioral repertoires so that there are no longer any kind of temper tantrums in progress to have to manage, deal with, handle, or stop. I also help parents know how to consistently respond to a newborn baby in a way that the child never gets into a pattern of throwing tantrums or of escalating with anger. I give parents these techniques with clarity and with as many examples as possible, hoping they will learn them quickly and easily.
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