Parenting advisors have for many decades failed to assist the parents of the world in totally eliminating their children's temper tantrums. One primary reason this has happened is that the majority of expert parenting advisors are misinformed and misguided and they don't understand the true cause of temper tantrums. These professionals believe (and so state) to parents the world over that the causes of temper tantrums are children's inability to express themselves in words, low tolerance for any kind of frustration, lack of problem solving abilities, need for attention, lack of substitute ways to vent their emotions, and determination to have their own way-all of which, they tell us, naturally leads children into tantrum experimentation.
I have learned by myself that these are not the actual causes of temper tantrums. They are, instead, the causes of the initial anger that comes before the tantrums. Repeatedly, throughout a twenty-three-year period, I've demonstrated that children's initial anger quickly dissipates without developing into tantrums if it invokes the needed responses from parents. One of the very real causes of temper tantrums is that the parent does not meet the initial anger needs of the child.
When children don't consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Otherwise, when children do consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to not escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Thus, temper tantrums are consistently prevented when it is demonstrated to children that the parents consistently understand their anger and will respond to it appropriately.
I acquired this understanding of appropriate anger responses through my personal experience. My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight children didn't. When I learned what to change in my anger responses when my fifth baby was fourteen months old, he stopped throwing tantrums within a week or so. I used my new techniques with my next eight children, from their births on, and not one of them ever threw a tantrum during their childhood years.
I call my techniques Infant Anger Management mostly because they are easily used to educate even newborn infants so as to never throw temper tantrums. If parents abandon the faulty ideas they've been fed about the causes of temper tantrums and then learn these functional techniques that can permanently eliminate and prevent them, temper tantrums disappear.
I have learned by myself that these are not the actual causes of temper tantrums. They are, instead, the causes of the initial anger that comes before the tantrums. Repeatedly, throughout a twenty-three-year period, I've demonstrated that children's initial anger quickly dissipates without developing into tantrums if it invokes the needed responses from parents. One of the very real causes of temper tantrums is that the parent does not meet the initial anger needs of the child.
When children don't consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Otherwise, when children do consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to not escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Thus, temper tantrums are consistently prevented when it is demonstrated to children that the parents consistently understand their anger and will respond to it appropriately.
I acquired this understanding of appropriate anger responses through my personal experience. My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight children didn't. When I learned what to change in my anger responses when my fifth baby was fourteen months old, he stopped throwing tantrums within a week or so. I used my new techniques with my next eight children, from their births on, and not one of them ever threw a tantrum during their childhood years.
I call my techniques Infant Anger Management mostly because they are easily used to educate even newborn infants so as to never throw temper tantrums. If parents abandon the faulty ideas they've been fed about the causes of temper tantrums and then learn these functional techniques that can permanently eliminate and prevent them, temper tantrums disappear.
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