Each one of my first five children, as babies, threw temper tantrums. When my fifth baby was fourteen months old, I discovered what I needed to change in my parenting style in order to prevent any further temper tantrums from him. He was forever free of temper tantrums within about a week. After that I used my new-found techniques with the last eight of my children, from birth on. None of them ever threw a tantrum-not even the two that had ADHD, one of which was also Oppositional Defiant. When she turned nineteen she made the statement, "I was always an extremely defiant child, but, throughout all the years my mother and I vied over who was going to be in charge, I always absolutely loved how she responded to my anger."
When I help other parents use my concepts to totally eliminate and totally prevent temper tantrums in their own children, I begin by teaching them the difference between Type-One and Type-Two tantrums. It's quite important to know what kind of tantrums one is trying to eliminate, because Type-Two temper tantrums need additional parenting techniques besides those needed in general for Type-One and Type-Two.
Type-One tantrums are really just true expressions of anger that have escalated to points of rage, possibly to extremes, or even maximums. These are expressions of out-of-control anger (or almost out-of-control). These kinds of temper tantrums happen when things occur to naturally make children angry.
Type-Two tantrums are not only expressions of anger (that might be exaggerated, unexaggerated, genuine, or even fake) but also conscious and deliberate attempts to manipulate or intimidate. These kinds of tantrums occur when children aren't given what they want.
Temper tantrum advice from the "experts" has traditionally included some aspect of ignoring the child's tantrums. This, I eventually found out, was faulty advice-but I steadfastly followed it in the beginning with my first five children. I eventually learned, after I eliminated the temper tantrums with my fifth baby, that ignoring tantrums was a portion of what caused them. In fact, it's my belief that ignoring temper tantrums pretty much guarantees they'll keep occurring. There are many other factors involved in total prevention and total elimination of tantrums from children's repertoires of behaviors, most certainly. I talk about these other factors as I present my methods, which I call, "Infant Anger Management." It all begins, however, with parents ending their "ignore-the-tantrum" behaviors.
When I help other parents use my concepts to totally eliminate and totally prevent temper tantrums in their own children, I begin by teaching them the difference between Type-One and Type-Two tantrums. It's quite important to know what kind of tantrums one is trying to eliminate, because Type-Two temper tantrums need additional parenting techniques besides those needed in general for Type-One and Type-Two.
Type-One tantrums are really just true expressions of anger that have escalated to points of rage, possibly to extremes, or even maximums. These are expressions of out-of-control anger (or almost out-of-control). These kinds of temper tantrums happen when things occur to naturally make children angry.
Type-Two tantrums are not only expressions of anger (that might be exaggerated, unexaggerated, genuine, or even fake) but also conscious and deliberate attempts to manipulate or intimidate. These kinds of tantrums occur when children aren't given what they want.
Temper tantrum advice from the "experts" has traditionally included some aspect of ignoring the child's tantrums. This, I eventually found out, was faulty advice-but I steadfastly followed it in the beginning with my first five children. I eventually learned, after I eliminated the temper tantrums with my fifth baby, that ignoring tantrums was a portion of what caused them. In fact, it's my belief that ignoring temper tantrums pretty much guarantees they'll keep occurring. There are many other factors involved in total prevention and total elimination of tantrums from children's repertoires of behaviors, most certainly. I talk about these other factors as I present my methods, which I call, "Infant Anger Management." It all begins, however, with parents ending their "ignore-the-tantrum" behaviors.
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