Nancy Rose, a Child Advocate, spoke to Lon Woodbury on "Parent Choices for Struggling Teens," which is a radio show on L.A. Talk Radio. She talked about the importance of raising the child you've got, not the one you want. Moms and dads who don't like their kid's core attributes, will cause the kid to get the idea that there is something inherently wrong with themselves. The host of the program, Lon Woodbury, is an Independent Educational Specialist. He has worked with families and struggling adolescents since 1984.
A Brief Bio of Nancy Rose
Nancy Rose has raised two sons and has spent more than 25 years studying the power of acceptance in parent-child relationships. A lawyer and accountant by profession, she now spends much of her time as a speaker, author and parent coach. In her new book, Raise the Child You've Got - Not the One You Want she addresses parents who long to re-establish a loving connection with their child.
What it takes to Raise the Child you've Got, Not the One You Want
Nancy's book "Raise the Child You've Got--Not the One You Want," originated from her own individual experience. She grew up not really feeling appreciated by her Mom and because of her experience of emotional pain around her self-identity. She knew her Mom loved her, yet she was not convinced that her Mom liked her; so, she spent her entire youth trying to win her mother's approval. Only years later, when she came to be a mother herself did she find out how to begin to heal her own childhood angst.
Until her twenties, Nancy got her self-worth by becoming an academic super-achiever. Then she awakened from her "trance of accomplishment" when she realized that she had become a tax attorney and a CPA only to impress her mother. Now, with a law degree from the University of California, Berkeley, and a degree in finance from the University of Illinois, she puts her knowledge, experience, and credentials to serve her passion for making sure every child is given permission to shine.
She has identified 9 traits for parents to identify who their child is at their core -- activity, adaptability, distractibility, ease with the unfamiliar, intensity, optimism, persistence, regularity, and sensory reactivity. A child will only feel accepted when his or her parents accept each trait, offer guidance and provide parent leadership. By accepting a child's Core Self, it becomes much easier to raise the child you've got, not the one you want.
A Brief Bio of Nancy Rose
Nancy Rose has raised two sons and has spent more than 25 years studying the power of acceptance in parent-child relationships. A lawyer and accountant by profession, she now spends much of her time as a speaker, author and parent coach. In her new book, Raise the Child You've Got - Not the One You Want she addresses parents who long to re-establish a loving connection with their child.
What it takes to Raise the Child you've Got, Not the One You Want
Nancy's book "Raise the Child You've Got--Not the One You Want," originated from her own individual experience. She grew up not really feeling appreciated by her Mom and because of her experience of emotional pain around her self-identity. She knew her Mom loved her, yet she was not convinced that her Mom liked her; so, she spent her entire youth trying to win her mother's approval. Only years later, when she came to be a mother herself did she find out how to begin to heal her own childhood angst.
Until her twenties, Nancy got her self-worth by becoming an academic super-achiever. Then she awakened from her "trance of accomplishment" when she realized that she had become a tax attorney and a CPA only to impress her mother. Now, with a law degree from the University of California, Berkeley, and a degree in finance from the University of Illinois, she puts her knowledge, experience, and credentials to serve her passion for making sure every child is given permission to shine.
She has identified 9 traits for parents to identify who their child is at their core -- activity, adaptability, distractibility, ease with the unfamiliar, intensity, optimism, persistence, regularity, and sensory reactivity. A child will only feel accepted when his or her parents accept each trait, offer guidance and provide parent leadership. By accepting a child's Core Self, it becomes much easier to raise the child you've got, not the one you want.
About the Author:
Lon Woodbury, the founder of Struggling Teens, has recorded the entire interview on his weekly L.A. Talk Radio Show show for people to listen to at their convenience.
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