Are you currently dissatisfied with your parent teenager relationship? Are you looking for new insight that can help you create greater bonds of love and respect that you have yet to experience? If so, let me introduce you to the Enneagram, an ancient body of wisdom related to personality types.
Bear in mind that ignorance in the parent teenager relationship may be bliss, but invariably it means making costly mistakes leading to despair and heart ache.
So what is the Enneagram all about and how can it work for you to assist you in your parent teenager relationship? The Enneagram is the study of the nine basic human personality types and explains why we behave the way we do, pointing to specific directions for growth. It is a powerful tool to improve relationships.
The Enneagram teaches that early in life we learned to feel safe and to cope within our environment by developing strategies based on our natural abilities and talents. In doing so, we developed a specific personality type.
By applying the Enneagram to our parent teenager relationship we can develop a clearer understanding of ourselves and our teenager. From this point we can increase our awareness and appreciation of behavior patterns and learn new and innovative ways of responding to the same stimuli. Presumably such change will serve us better.
What this means is that we can experience liberation from old useless coping strategies and open our eyes to a larger perspective of life. Through such a process, new ways of being beckon us, which subsequently enables us to upgrade our relationships.
Some people steer clear of any kind personality profiling systems with the belief that they themselves do not want to be 'put into a box'. Neither do they want to put their teenager or any others 'into a box'. The truth is whilst you cannot change your personality you can manage it. Furthermore by knowing your own fundamental personality type you can nonetheless determine to do lots of stuff in life that keeps you 'out of the box'.
From my experience in working with the Enneagram in my parent teenager relationships, I have been able to identify my own self defeating behaviors and look for new ways to relate. It has helped me to 'break out of the box' that I was a prisoner to. Central to this, was my newly acquired capacity to listen to understand and thereby assist our teenagers on their life path to holistic health and happiness.
Bear in mind that ignorance in the parent teenager relationship may be bliss, but invariably it means making costly mistakes leading to despair and heart ache.
So what is the Enneagram all about and how can it work for you to assist you in your parent teenager relationship? The Enneagram is the study of the nine basic human personality types and explains why we behave the way we do, pointing to specific directions for growth. It is a powerful tool to improve relationships.
The Enneagram teaches that early in life we learned to feel safe and to cope within our environment by developing strategies based on our natural abilities and talents. In doing so, we developed a specific personality type.
By applying the Enneagram to our parent teenager relationship we can develop a clearer understanding of ourselves and our teenager. From this point we can increase our awareness and appreciation of behavior patterns and learn new and innovative ways of responding to the same stimuli. Presumably such change will serve us better.
What this means is that we can experience liberation from old useless coping strategies and open our eyes to a larger perspective of life. Through such a process, new ways of being beckon us, which subsequently enables us to upgrade our relationships.
Some people steer clear of any kind personality profiling systems with the belief that they themselves do not want to be 'put into a box'. Neither do they want to put their teenager or any others 'into a box'. The truth is whilst you cannot change your personality you can manage it. Furthermore by knowing your own fundamental personality type you can nonetheless determine to do lots of stuff in life that keeps you 'out of the box'.
From my experience in working with the Enneagram in my parent teenager relationships, I have been able to identify my own self defeating behaviors and look for new ways to relate. It has helped me to 'break out of the box' that I was a prisoner to. Central to this, was my newly acquired capacity to listen to understand and thereby assist our teenagers on their life path to holistic health and happiness.
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