In your family, what is central and core? Is it your financial or economic foundation? Is it the knowledge or skills that you possess? Is it the freedom that each family member has to be their own person? Or is it your relationships rooted in true love? When you think of your teenager, what is it that counts above all else?
Earlier this year my brother in law answered this question which resonated with me strongly for two primary reasons. Firstly it seemed to be so simple yet so true. Secondly, it came from a person that I had viewed for decades as someone who put money first in his life. His answer went something like this: "you know Paul, the only thing that really matters in life is your relationships. There really isn't much else of any real consequence."
Parents of teenagers take heed. It is your parent teenager relationship that is your treasure. If not cultivated it can become virtually non existent so that you the parent and your teenager become like "ships passing each other in the night". Worse still, your relationship can become like a poison and source of great pain.
So what is the reasoning that says that your parent teenager relationship is so crucial? To be in a position to positively influence your teenager, they must view you as part of their quality world. In other words, your teenager must highly value their relationship with you.
Sadly, if you are outside your teenagers quality world, all your commands, requests, pleas and actions to positively impact your child, will fall on deaf ears. Furthermore if your relationship is marred by deep rooted resentment and hatred, your actions can even become counterproductive. For a parent it is like a bomb that blows up in your face.
Alternatively, if you recognize that without a healthy parent teenager relationship, the cards are stacked against you, and you decide to place the highest premium on cultivating your relationship, you will be well positioned to be able to exert a positive influence on your teenager.
The big question then is, how do you cultivate your parent teenager relationship in the most optimal way? That is another topic.
Obviously the answer lies in the way you choose to parent. Some parenting approaches are clearly unhelpful. Unfortunately many parents who work to build their parent teenager relationship, unwittingly become part of the problem. Conversely, the same parents could drive the solution.
Notwithstanding, the beginning point of successful teen parenting is to acknowledge that your parent teenager relationship is worth more than gold. Unlike gold, it needs nurturing.
Earlier this year my brother in law answered this question which resonated with me strongly for two primary reasons. Firstly it seemed to be so simple yet so true. Secondly, it came from a person that I had viewed for decades as someone who put money first in his life. His answer went something like this: "you know Paul, the only thing that really matters in life is your relationships. There really isn't much else of any real consequence."
Parents of teenagers take heed. It is your parent teenager relationship that is your treasure. If not cultivated it can become virtually non existent so that you the parent and your teenager become like "ships passing each other in the night". Worse still, your relationship can become like a poison and source of great pain.
So what is the reasoning that says that your parent teenager relationship is so crucial? To be in a position to positively influence your teenager, they must view you as part of their quality world. In other words, your teenager must highly value their relationship with you.
Sadly, if you are outside your teenagers quality world, all your commands, requests, pleas and actions to positively impact your child, will fall on deaf ears. Furthermore if your relationship is marred by deep rooted resentment and hatred, your actions can even become counterproductive. For a parent it is like a bomb that blows up in your face.
Alternatively, if you recognize that without a healthy parent teenager relationship, the cards are stacked against you, and you decide to place the highest premium on cultivating your relationship, you will be well positioned to be able to exert a positive influence on your teenager.
The big question then is, how do you cultivate your parent teenager relationship in the most optimal way? That is another topic.
Obviously the answer lies in the way you choose to parent. Some parenting approaches are clearly unhelpful. Unfortunately many parents who work to build their parent teenager relationship, unwittingly become part of the problem. Conversely, the same parents could drive the solution.
Notwithstanding, the beginning point of successful teen parenting is to acknowledge that your parent teenager relationship is worth more than gold. Unlike gold, it needs nurturing.
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