Not so long ago a dad-to-be would pace up and down outside the labor room and would be admitted only after the birth. This is so unlike modern times when he has the option to witness, maybe even document, his wife's labor. There are however persons directly involved with the birth process that have different views on this matter.
They reason out that: Birthing mothers are a sorry mess to look at and they don't want their husband to see them in that condition and will rather they stay outside. On the part of the husband, there is the fear that seeing the birth of baby will make sex a less attractive prospect. The faint hearted don't relish the idea of seeing the suffering of the wife.
Some evidence point to mothers being more at ease in the presence of experienced women rather than their worried and tense partners. The wife's mother or a close friend who is also a mother or a doula if one is available are deemed to be better at consoling her (the doula provides physical and emotional help to the woman giving birth).
Most men, however, want to be present when their baby is born. Such men can be very good at it and both parents can share the joy of seeing their baby for the first time.
Advice For Dads. He can get himself familiar with the birth process, understand the ordeal his wife would experience and be there if and when he is needed.
Your only concern is your partner and the baby. You are present because they need you by their sides. This is one of those situations where the presence of a person has more meaning than can be put into words.
You may see a side of your partner you've never seen before. Don't be surprised if she treats you badly. Don't give a damn, just grin and bear it. Put yourself in her place and you will understand and agree that perhaps you would behave even worse. Not perhaps, but surely you would.
They reason out that: Birthing mothers are a sorry mess to look at and they don't want their husband to see them in that condition and will rather they stay outside. On the part of the husband, there is the fear that seeing the birth of baby will make sex a less attractive prospect. The faint hearted don't relish the idea of seeing the suffering of the wife.
Some evidence point to mothers being more at ease in the presence of experienced women rather than their worried and tense partners. The wife's mother or a close friend who is also a mother or a doula if one is available are deemed to be better at consoling her (the doula provides physical and emotional help to the woman giving birth).
Most men, however, want to be present when their baby is born. Such men can be very good at it and both parents can share the joy of seeing their baby for the first time.
Advice For Dads. He can get himself familiar with the birth process, understand the ordeal his wife would experience and be there if and when he is needed.
Your only concern is your partner and the baby. You are present because they need you by their sides. This is one of those situations where the presence of a person has more meaning than can be put into words.
You may see a side of your partner you've never seen before. Don't be surprised if she treats you badly. Don't give a damn, just grin and bear it. Put yourself in her place and you will understand and agree that perhaps you would behave even worse. Not perhaps, but surely you would.
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