Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Training Kids How To Parent Is Learned By Example

By Charles Chisato Xavier


Sometimes it is hard to distance ourselves, when we are parenting, from experiences that we had in our teenage years with our own parents. Parents sometimes do not realize that the way they parent their children can have both positive and negative impacts. Learning how to be a better parent, and mastering top notch child rearing skills, is the key to bypassing your past and making your children's future brighter and better. Of course we believe that is a worthy endeavor and all prospective parents should do this. Therefore, it is necessary that you learn these skills which will allow you to be a positive influence in your children's lives so they can be the same with their own.

A common negative experience that most children have to go through peer pressure. Teenagers are the most susceptible to peer pressure because it operates at a higher level in high school. Many times parents have no idea about it because their children do not discuss what is going on. Parents can only offer their support and tell them that they will be there for them if they need them. So if you have a good relationship with your kids, this is much easier to deal with. As you probably know, every situation that you deal with must be handled differently most of the time. So the situation can be very difficult, sometimes. You can even be very direct and simply ask your child if they are experiencing pressure from other children.

While it may be the hardest thing you do, there will be times when you have to sit and watch your child not reach their goals. Most parents want to somehow do it for them so their child experiences the glory of success. While it may be hard, be prepared for times when you will need to help your child look at reality when it comes to their goals. It is always a good practice to be straight forward with your children, but do it in a way that is caring at the same time. You need to show your confidence in them at all times. Be sure to turn around negative feelings and show them the positive aspects. Everyone can think back to their days as a kid and not feeling adequate in some way. That was a terrible feeling, but the worst part was living with it in the weeks and months after that happened. To avoid as many painful situations as possible, you need to keep an eye on the emotions your child shows when they are participating in anything. Don't push your child into an activity if they really are not enjoying it. Give them the freedom to talk about how they feel with you. Then, you can take your cues from what is said and offer your wisdom and support. Try to help them see the larger picture and offer to help them with educational materials that can help them perform better.

Kids that struggle with certain subjects in school, or all subjects, will be experiencing higher levels of stress and other negative emotions. When kids are not doing very well in school, they will feel depressed and sometimes are unable to deal with their feelings of inadequacy. Kids that cannot keep up often do not know answers to questions that are postulated by the teacher in class which can sometimes lead to embarrassing scenarios. After you have been alerted to your child's problems in school, try to find a way to help them if they need the support. A good way to help your child is to figure out a plan of action after having a talk about their situation. Your kids also need to know that they can express their feelings, and if they need help it will be available.

The best parents are those who allow their children to find their own lives, and prepare them for it. Children learn by example and will normally head in the direction they should go, when they are allowed to. When children have passion, and ability, and a parent to gently push them, they will find success.

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