Sunday, August 14, 2011

On Being A Father

By Damian Papworth


Congrats, you're going to be a father. It's definitely a huge, life changing event. If you haven't yet realized, changes are going to come. But that's nothing to be afraid of. Although, new responsibilities are at hand and you do have to care for a new life, it's an exciting time.

Fatherhood is definitely a life changing event. Many new fathers experience a rollercoaster ride of emotions-it's not just expectant mothers who are fraught with emotional highs and lows. There's the excitement of being dad, mixed with fear of not being a good enough parent, along with dread about the changes that will have to be made.

Being a father means that your entire life is turned upside down. Changes are going to come.

Obviously, this brings up some tensions coupled with a good deal of anxiety and apprehension. When a huge, life changing event such as becoming a new dad is at hand, some people tend to panic, others become distraught and frustrated. But the good news is that these reactions are normal. It's a very natural reaction.

Although it may indeed be a rather taxing time, the best way to get over these fears is to confront them head on.

Here's a look at some of the common worries and fears that face new dads to be.

A somewhat chief problem or issue that tends to come about when a new baby is being brought into the home is money. Pocketbooks do get tighter with a new child. Most new parents will probably spend at least $10,000 in the first year alone.

Careful planning and tight budgeting are a necessity of preparing for a new child. You do have to make some concessions. You can live a more simple, less consumption oriented lifestyle. Keep in mind too that babies don't require all the latest toys or the newest clothes-all they really need is some TLC, tender, loving care.

Another big concern that often comes up has to do with health issues. Many parents, both mothers and fathers to be, are worried about what could go wrong. What would happen if their child's health is at risk in some way? The good news is that there are solid statistics to reassure even the most nervous of soon to be parents-fully 96-97% of all children are born without any health issues at all. The key is to focus on staying positive and keeping a glass half full attitude. Don't worry.

Yet another apprehension that tends to distress all new fathers and fathers to be is the fear of being an inadequate or bad parent. It is, of course, a very common fear. Yet, the mere fact of being worried simply reinforces the reality that you will be a good father. Caring goes a long way.

When it comes to being a father just remember all you need is love.




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