Friday, September 26, 2014

Essential Guidelines For All Parents

By Marlyn Parker


Children go through different stages as they progress toward adulthood, something that will present many challenges to every parent. The best thing that you can do is have some strategies that actually work and have them ready when the time comes. The following strategies are a compilation of things that really do work and can help parents raising kids.

Each child has the possibility and probability of reaching great heights in life, but this is stymied when parents ignore their kids or neglect them altogether. Getting to wrapped up in your own life, and ignoring the lives of your children, can be detrimental to them so you need to find a way to make their life interact with yours. A parent that shows up and does stuff with their kids, even if they don't know what they are doing, is someone that cares and wants their children to succeed.

The reason you need to do this is that if you respond in an angry way, it is not going to help the predicament. Even if it's a situation where the child needs to be disciplined, it's best to do this in a rational state of mind rather than when you're out of control.

All parents have to enforce certain rules and restrictions on their kids' behavior. Different rules have different purposes -some are necessary for the kids' physical well being, such as "Don't run into the street." What not all parents realize is that kids secretly crave and require certain limitations, as it helps them feel grounded. While children may complain when you tell them they can't watch a certain movie or they can't eat cookies before dinner, you have to keep in mind that it's your responsibility to make certain decisions on their behalf for now. You don't have to be overly strict about these things -you can give them alternatives as long as they stay within certain restrictions. You might give them a choice between doing the dishes or taking out the garbage, for example; not a great choice, but it serves to remind them they have certain responsibilities while still giving them an alternative.

Every parent needs advice, support or another adult to talk to sometimes. Try to work things out with your partner so that responsibilities are shared as much as possible. There's always someone who can help if you look for it -if not your partner, then perhaps a friend or family member; if not these, there are many support groups for parents in various situations. The best parents are those who recognize when they need help and learn how to ask for it. The best time to set up a support network is before you desperately need it. Needing help or advice doesn't mean you're not competent as a parent, only that you're human. Sometimes someone else can offer a fresh point of view and give you a useful suggestion. While there's no simple rule to govern all situations you face as a parent, it's good to have some guiding principles. So respond to every situation as it arises and try to learn from your experiences. It can be useful to study various theories about parenting, but finally you have to make up your own mind about what's best.




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