Parents go through the most confusing time, when their kids are in their teens. Children that were once kind, happy and easy to get along with are all of sudden angry and sullen teens, and mom and dad are wondering what went wrong. It becomes frustrating quite quickly for the parents, because they try to have a friendly, loving relationship with their teen and can't seem to find the right actions or words to convince the teenager of this fact. Then it takes the family so long to turn to counseling for help that the situation is out of control. Parents are confused and frustrated and the teenager feels like mom and dad are foes not friends. Both sides are scared and this many times leads to the parents stating they are going to throw the teenager out of the house, and/or the teenager is threatening to move out or run away.
While this situation is not the easiest to deal with, the parents have to comprehend that the intense emotions involved are a good sign. It shows that both parties care enough to fight for the relationship, and care about what the other party thinks. This means the positive communication and problem solving can still be accomplished with this situation. Of course, there are productive and counterproductive approaches to this situation. If you are going through this with your teen, you need to realize the negative emotions your teenager shows, has very little to do with you. This will help you mend the relationship with your kid. Check out the tips below on how to mend a difficult relationship with an angry teenager effectively.
Do not Give Up - Many times parents give up and this is the worst thing they can do. The families that wind up okay are the ones that stay with it and do not quit trying to work things out with each other. As confused, angry and upset as the parents may be, they do not quit. They keep showing their concern and love until their teen heals and finds balance.
Don't Be so Grim-Remember that having a sense of humor can often salvage an otherwise tense situation. Sure, sometimes your kids' actions are serious, but if you can step back and see the larger picture, you'll often realize how humorous - and normal - the whole thing really is.
Don't Take it Personally-In many cases, a teenager's anger will seem far out of proportion compared to their situation. If you have treated your child with love and kindness and provided well throughout his life, his sudden hostility may seem like a slap in the face. Just remember though, that his anger usually has very little to do with you. Of course, if you have something to apologize for, do it; if not, just be patient and realize that the anger isn't something personal.
Do Understand Your Kid's Fears-Growing up is scary, and that fear is often expressed in your teen's angry outbursts. If you can recognize and acknowledge your child's fears and vulnerability, you'll more easily be able to navigate the emotional minefield of the teen years. Rather than acting like the big shot who knows it all, give your kid opportunities to discuss the fears he may be dealing with.
Watch for Signs of Depression - Parents need to realize the adolescent depression can happen in their teen, so his sullen behavior and outbursts of anger could be signs of a more serious situation. When parents have tried to work with their teenager to no avail and he is still angry, then they may need to seek out a professional diagnosis and counseling.
While this situation is not the easiest to deal with, the parents have to comprehend that the intense emotions involved are a good sign. It shows that both parties care enough to fight for the relationship, and care about what the other party thinks. This means the positive communication and problem solving can still be accomplished with this situation. Of course, there are productive and counterproductive approaches to this situation. If you are going through this with your teen, you need to realize the negative emotions your teenager shows, has very little to do with you. This will help you mend the relationship with your kid. Check out the tips below on how to mend a difficult relationship with an angry teenager effectively.
Do not Give Up - Many times parents give up and this is the worst thing they can do. The families that wind up okay are the ones that stay with it and do not quit trying to work things out with each other. As confused, angry and upset as the parents may be, they do not quit. They keep showing their concern and love until their teen heals and finds balance.
Don't Be so Grim-Remember that having a sense of humor can often salvage an otherwise tense situation. Sure, sometimes your kids' actions are serious, but if you can step back and see the larger picture, you'll often realize how humorous - and normal - the whole thing really is.
Don't Take it Personally-In many cases, a teenager's anger will seem far out of proportion compared to their situation. If you have treated your child with love and kindness and provided well throughout his life, his sudden hostility may seem like a slap in the face. Just remember though, that his anger usually has very little to do with you. Of course, if you have something to apologize for, do it; if not, just be patient and realize that the anger isn't something personal.
Do Understand Your Kid's Fears-Growing up is scary, and that fear is often expressed in your teen's angry outbursts. If you can recognize and acknowledge your child's fears and vulnerability, you'll more easily be able to navigate the emotional minefield of the teen years. Rather than acting like the big shot who knows it all, give your kid opportunities to discuss the fears he may be dealing with.
Watch for Signs of Depression - Parents need to realize the adolescent depression can happen in their teen, so his sullen behavior and outbursts of anger could be signs of a more serious situation. When parents have tried to work with their teenager to no avail and he is still angry, then they may need to seek out a professional diagnosis and counseling.
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