The arguments on whether children should be spanked or not has been around for years. Some people says it's the only way to teach a child what he should and should not do, while there are also some people who says spanking will only send a negative message that violence is okay, and that it would not teach the child anything good.
Spanking is not practiced in our household, and these are the reasons why:
What is discipline about? It's about teaching the child how to control his behavior, and not controlling it directly. That is the difference between hitting and disciplining a child without spanking. Discipline without spanking will make him realize what he did wrong and why he shouldn't do it again, while spanking may teach him not to repeat the behavior but it will not make him understand why.
There may be times when you feel like spanking is easier, but experts say nothing good comes out of it. Sure, your child may behave for a while, but studies show that kids who were spanked goes back to misbehaving in no time. They're going to keep on misbehaving unless you make them realize what they did wrong, and why they shouldn't do it again. Experts have also found out that spanking teaches kids violence, and most learns to hit other people when they don't get their way.
There is a difference between having the child respect you, and having him afraid of you. Showing the child that you are listening by disciplining him without spanking also shows that you respect him which in turn makes him listen to you when you need to say something. This is very different from spanking which may show who's in charge, but would also scare your child in the process.
There are alternatives to spanking that a parent can choose from. You can choose to take a privilege away (such as not allowing her to watch TV for the day) or you can give her an extra house chore as a form of punishment. Doing so allows you to discipline your child without hurting her.
Spanking is not practiced in our household, and these are the reasons why:
What is discipline about? It's about teaching the child how to control his behavior, and not controlling it directly. That is the difference between hitting and disciplining a child without spanking. Discipline without spanking will make him realize what he did wrong and why he shouldn't do it again, while spanking may teach him not to repeat the behavior but it will not make him understand why.
There may be times when you feel like spanking is easier, but experts say nothing good comes out of it. Sure, your child may behave for a while, but studies show that kids who were spanked goes back to misbehaving in no time. They're going to keep on misbehaving unless you make them realize what they did wrong, and why they shouldn't do it again. Experts have also found out that spanking teaches kids violence, and most learns to hit other people when they don't get their way.
There is a difference between having the child respect you, and having him afraid of you. Showing the child that you are listening by disciplining him without spanking also shows that you respect him which in turn makes him listen to you when you need to say something. This is very different from spanking which may show who's in charge, but would also scare your child in the process.
There are alternatives to spanking that a parent can choose from. You can choose to take a privilege away (such as not allowing her to watch TV for the day) or you can give her an extra house chore as a form of punishment. Doing so allows you to discipline your child without hurting her.
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