Monday, December 15, 2014

Education On How To Talk To Teens About Sex And Sexuality

By Lucia Weeks


Teens would learn stuff on sex whether parents talk to them about it or not. How to talk to teens about sex can be an issue for parents who are not comfortable with the subject. Teenagers learn sex issues at school and from their peers, and so if parents fail to give them the right information, they would take whatever they get from outside the home. It is the responsibility of parents to shape the beliefs of their young ones, even on sex matters.

First, it is important to note that talking to teens on sex is an ongoing process, therefore conversations should be part of normal life. Short and frequent conversations are recommended rather than a big one-off talk. In addition, you do not have to be experts on sexuality to have meaningful conversation with teenagers.

Trying to educate teenagers on sex without preparation would not be effective. This is because most of the teens would like to have answers to a lot of the things they heard from friends. A parent who does not prepare, may not have answers to the concerns these young ones may bring up. Parents can investigate the questions young people ask concerning sex, and also common misconceptions of teenagers about sex. A parent can have practise sessions with friends or a spouse before finally talking to the teen.

The sex education for teens can begin with basic topics. Such as the male and female reproduction systems. The parent can then go ahead to explain issues on sexual intercourse and associated consequences such as pregnancy STDs and the emotional consequences. The parent can also take time to explain the effects drugs and alcohol have on sexual decisions. Parents should be able to seize the right opportunity to raise the topic on sex with teenagers. The discussion can be started anytime, like when watching television, in at grocery shopping or when washing dishes together. It is important to choose a moment that the teen is likely to be paying more attention.

Openness is very important when talking to teenagers. The parent has to explain all questions to the best of their ability. If for any reason the parent does not have immediate answers to teen's questions, attempts should be made to get the answers as soon as possible.

Try to give your teen factual information on the subject you are discussing. Your teen needs accurate information. They may learn about the subject in school and giving them inaccurate information may confuse them. Provide accurate information and be very specific with regards to how your beliefs and values either agree with or differ relating to sex. Also be clear about your feelings concerning specific issues and present the risks objectively.

The talk on sex should be in the form of a discussion where teens can have the opportunities of asking questions and also express their views. This way, they will learn better. Trying to lecture them may not be the best option, because the parent cannot be sure the teen is listening.

If talking about sex with your teen seems impossible because you are too embarrassed or your teen refuses to listen, try different approaches. You can get age-appropriate sex education books for teens and leave them in your child's bed room. You can also ask a trusted aunt or uncle, or a minister for help. Remember, talking to teenagers about sex can be difficult, but it is important and nothing can replace your influence.




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