Stories of parents abusing and beating their children are not new. Child abuse is actually becoming prevalent that various laws are developed to classify what represents child abuse. Child abuse basically means physically, sexually, emotionally mistreating or neglecting a child. A child being beaten is no different to a child being yelled at. Unfortunately, even the most patient parents can lose their temper and abuse their children by yelling at them and mistreating them, where in fact parents should be the one guarding their little ones from danger and harm. Based on a study in 2003, 88 percent of the 991 families interviewed admitted shouting, yelling or screaming at their kids. This percentage is more prevalent in families with 7-year-old children. Here are some things that experts suggest for parents who have shouted at their kids.
Examine How You Talk To Your Kids
Listen and examine how you talk to your kids. Examine the words you say to your kids and the manner you talk to them. Do you sound angry? Do you sound intimidating? Are you mocking your children with the way you talk to them? However, if you are have a genuinely loud voice and you sounds as if you are yelling, explain to your children that it is how you really talk and reassure them that you are not angry with them. Then again, if you can change the way you talk and your intonation, try your best to do it. If you shout a lot, there is a possibility that your kids will shout too. Kids frequently emulate their parents' actions.
Understand What Triggers Anger And The Yelling
At times, kids can misbehave, then again it is important to note what triggers your yelling. Based on research, 90 percent of people who yell are also yelled at when they were kids. It is important to recognize if you fall into that same pattern during times of stress, so that you will find other effective means of communicating with your kids especially when you are kids.
Recognize That You Need Help
If you are angry all the time, probably you need to seek help. Get support from your partner or a good friend. If you are familiar with the Anger Management Program, seek assistance from this group. On the other hand, find a good counselor near you who will teach you on how to manage your anger more positively.
Take Deep Breaths
Taking deep breaths is healthful not just to your body but also to your relationship with your kids. Breathing releases stress. If the body is stressed out, the blood vessels commonly constrict. Your muscles feel tight and you begin to have shallow breathing. When you have shallow breathing, you are not getting the amount of oxygen that your body needs. The next time you are angry at your child, instead of yelling, train yourself to take several deep breaths and then talk to your child matter-of-factly. You can be firm and assertive, just don't shout.
Definitely, it is common for people particularly adults to get angry. However, it is critical to recognize angry feelings and to find ways on how to positively deal with the situation particularly if you are rearing kids and you are building good foundation for them. Shouting and yelling at kids is not the best discipline style that you can adapt because it can break relationship, trust and confidence.
Examine How You Talk To Your Kids
Listen and examine how you talk to your kids. Examine the words you say to your kids and the manner you talk to them. Do you sound angry? Do you sound intimidating? Are you mocking your children with the way you talk to them? However, if you are have a genuinely loud voice and you sounds as if you are yelling, explain to your children that it is how you really talk and reassure them that you are not angry with them. Then again, if you can change the way you talk and your intonation, try your best to do it. If you shout a lot, there is a possibility that your kids will shout too. Kids frequently emulate their parents' actions.
Understand What Triggers Anger And The Yelling
At times, kids can misbehave, then again it is important to note what triggers your yelling. Based on research, 90 percent of people who yell are also yelled at when they were kids. It is important to recognize if you fall into that same pattern during times of stress, so that you will find other effective means of communicating with your kids especially when you are kids.
Recognize That You Need Help
If you are angry all the time, probably you need to seek help. Get support from your partner or a good friend. If you are familiar with the Anger Management Program, seek assistance from this group. On the other hand, find a good counselor near you who will teach you on how to manage your anger more positively.
Take Deep Breaths
Taking deep breaths is healthful not just to your body but also to your relationship with your kids. Breathing releases stress. If the body is stressed out, the blood vessels commonly constrict. Your muscles feel tight and you begin to have shallow breathing. When you have shallow breathing, you are not getting the amount of oxygen that your body needs. The next time you are angry at your child, instead of yelling, train yourself to take several deep breaths and then talk to your child matter-of-factly. You can be firm and assertive, just don't shout.
Definitely, it is common for people particularly adults to get angry. However, it is critical to recognize angry feelings and to find ways on how to positively deal with the situation particularly if you are rearing kids and you are building good foundation for them. Shouting and yelling at kids is not the best discipline style that you can adapt because it can break relationship, trust and confidence.
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